Yesterday evening my kid was outside watering a patch of dirt I’m trying to grow grass on. I was watching him through the kitchen window when two neighborhood kids came up to him. They talked for a second and one of the kids came up to the door to the house and opened it. Then he lost his nerve and closed it. I still walked over to the door to see what was up. When I got there, my kid informed me that Dipshit1 and Dipshit2 wanted popsicles. WTF. These kids didn’t want to hang out with my kid or play with him or anything, but one time a while back the wife gave Disphit1 an ice cream sandwich when he was playing with my kid so now he thinks he and his friends are entitled whenever he wants something from my house.
I told the dipshits that my house isn’t the popsicle stand and told them to get lost. They looked at me like I was nuts and pretended to hang out with my kid until I went back inside. They left within a second of my being out of their sight.
This isn’t the first time that some dipshit kid came over and thought my house is a free grocery store. One of the my kid’s little buddies came over one time and just helped himself to my fridge and pantry and stuff. When I asked him what he was doing he said he was looking for a snack. Again, WTF.
This is a rhetorical question (answer: dipshit parents produce dipshit kids), but when did kids decide it was ok to not have any respect for other peoples’ property? When I was a kid a buddy’s parents would lay me out for going through their stuff. If you wanted a glass of water you asked for it. Nicely. These days, kids treat you like you’re there to serve them.
And the parents. Good Lord. When I told a parent her kid stole my a couple of my kid’s more valuable Yu-Gi-Oh cards a couple years ago she thought it was funny and acted like it was no big deal. Then she got mad at me for banning the thieving little bastard from my house.
Sometimes I feel like I shortchange my kids because I don’t put any effort into making sure they’re making friends or hanging out with other kids or anything. I leave it up their mother because she’s much better socially than I am. But the more I think about it the more I’m coming to believe that I’ve inadvertantly done the right thing by not gritting my teeth and putting up with assholes and their asshole children just so mine could learn the shallow, disgusting, disrespectful ways of their peers. My kids might never be prom king or queen and may never win any popularity contests, but they’ll not have other parents wonder what kind of fucksicle raised them either.
your kids will thank you later i’m sure. having friends as a youngin is way overrated. i wasn’t allowed to hang out with all the dopers/gangbangers in my neighborhood when i was a kid so i sat inside and listened to rock n roll all day. now all those people are in jail whlie i get to choose my friends AND i’m pretty educated in rock n roll.
There are simply no consequences for acting like a pig nowadays. The worst that happens is they don’t get what they were after. Most have been raised so badly they don’t even realize there’s something wrong with their behavior. There is one neighbor kid who is not allowed to set foot on our property because he steals. He was once in my son’s room and pocketed some change he saw on the floor. When my boy said, “hey, that’s MINE!” Neighbor kid retorted, “I found it on the floor!” And he was serious. The way I see it, I’d rather be alone than have to watch my stuff like a hawk because my “friends” might take it.
Your son is not losing anything by not being friends with these rude little creeps. We were usually generous with our children’s friends, but if I sensed they were taking advantage, (coming by to ask my son to ride bikes to the park, then getting him to ask me for popsicles, cokes, etc. Then my boy coming home 15 minutes later, alone) I cut them off at the knees. My children are 20 and 15, and neither one will tolerate someone who takes advantage of or treats them badly. They’re not rude about it, but they stay away from anyone who doesn’t treat them or others properly.
Shoooooot I had to ask for a glass of water in my own house. I wouldn’t even dare think about asking for one in someone else’s.
Aitch honey, I sent you an email about a week ago. I think I may have used an address you don’t check all that often?
Oh my God, that is unbelievable! I shake my head and think how surprising this should be. Then I stop being surprised. I’ve worked around kids like this and they never cease to amaze you - in both good and bad ways. I must say that you did the right thing, that’s for sure!
No Leslie, I have it, I just need to actually sit down and let out a long reply:)
What’s missing is parents acting like parents. Kids run the show these days.
I watched this episode of Real Housewives of NY (because I have no life). One couple took their superkids to a dinner, and the 4 year old took a fork and tore one man’s hamburger into a plate of dog food. Everbody sat there watching him, and the kid’s father said to the owner of the destroyed dinner, “You have sons, right? Then you know the story.”.
No probs, hon. Whenever you get a chance.
And midwestie, I also watch that show, so you’re not the only one with no life. re the burger destroying four year old: I love when someone asked, “so you let them play with food?!” And the parents, said firmly, “YES”. Like not allowing them to do a Helen Keller at the table would be a bad thing. Lordy.